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Topic: This module/week you have had the opportunity to watch the movie Fireproof in order to better understand the EMC equation (Identified Needs + Intentional Resourcing = Enlarging the Conversation). Through the lens of our course materials, explore the interpersonal communication concepts you identified in the movie. For example, did you find a degenerative communication spiral? What role did self-disclosure play? How was identity revealed?
This movie was about a couple, Caleb and Cathy that was having marital problems. They were very good at their jobs, however, when they left the jobs they went home to yell and scream at each other because they were both miserable. Caleb and Cathy both had began to spiral out of control because they could not communicate properly. They each were blaming the other for the failed marriage because they were not communicating, just blaming each other for the mess. Caleb had found a way to deal with his problems by viewing the porn sights. Cathy had turn to a doctor at the hospital for comfort, because he seem to have everything her husband was missing (being affectionate, listening to her, paying attention to her). Cathy was frustrated because she was having trouble fixing her moms problem. Her mom had a stroke, which left her disabled; she needed a wheelchair and other accessories. Cathy tells Caleb that she wants a divorce. Cathy shares her problem with her friends and they give her bad advice, which does not help the situation. She starts having lunch with a doctor at the hospital that likes her and starts to fall for him, because he appears to be everything her husband is not. At home, she is still angry and upset at her husband for spending time on the internet looking at the boat that he is saving for and watching porn. Caleb is frustrated because he feels that his wife is ungrateful and does not appreciate all of the hard work that he does on his job (he is a hero to everyone else). He does not see what the problem is, he believes that the marriage is good and Cathy is just making things hard. He has a friend at work that is telling him about Jesus, however, he feel like he does not need a relationship with the Lord. He is getting his fulfillment from the internet, watching porn. What was going on in each person heart and head was causing them communication problem. Their perception and preconceived notions about each other was hindering their marriage. Cathy was hurt because of her husbands’ actions, and He was upset because he did not understand why his wife was upset. They each believe something in their head and hearts about each other that was preventing them from talking about their situation (Burley-Allen, 1995, p. 169). Caleb’s dad came to visit and gave him books that contain a forty-day journey to heal his marriage. He decided to try it, though his wife was not buying any of it. He reached the half way mark and wanted to give up because he was not seeing any results. His dad encourages him to press on and not give up. Caleb began to get serious about winning his wife back, and accepted the Lord Jesus into his life and the wife began to see the difference in him. He began to see that he was wrong to treat his wife the way that he had been treating her so he ask her forgiveness. He took the money that he had been saving for his boat to pay for his mother in law wheelchair. Cathy found out that her husband paid for the wheel chair, and was overwhelmed because she thought her friend paid for it. She went home dressed up and went to her husband job to make up. Cathy wanted what her husband had so he led her to the Lord. They renewed their vows to each other. Burley-Allen, M. (1995) Listening: The forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide (2nd). New York: John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ISBN: 9780471015871 Fireproof DVD (2008)