c: dentify a specific interpersonal communication need that has been revealed to you through the readings. Why is this particular need important to you and perhaps to your faith journey? What resources did you identify that will help you meet this need?
(Kendra) A specific interpersonal communication need that has been revealed to me through the readings is focusing on the person and not fake listening when he or she is speaking. Also, another significant item I learned that I need to keep in mind that goes along with focusing is the three levels of listening. I have a bad tendency to doze off when people talk for a long time or if I am either tired or disinterested in the topic. I believe that these two needs are important to me because I need to learn to become a more mindful listener and become intrigued in conversations. Right now I listen at a Level 2 (hearing words, but not really listening) or Level 3 (listening in spurts) depending on the instance. I need to try to listen on a level 1 on a consistent basis, which is empathetic listening (Burley-Allen, 1995). If I am going to do any type of counseling I need to learn to become a more mindful listener in order to be able to effectively help my clients, understand exactly what he or she is dealing with. Also, I believe that becoming a better listener will help me in my relationships with my family, friends, and boyfriend. Becoming a more mindful listener I believe would help me with me faith because I would be able to listen to God on a more intimate level when he is speaking to me, which I currently struggle with.
Some resources that will help me meet the need of getting out of the habit of being a fake listener and focusing is to remember or write a note on the four focusing skills. These include, “aiming your posture, making natural and appropriate eye contact, moving responsively, and to make responsive sounds (Stewart, 2012).
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Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: The forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide (Second Edition). New York: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
Stewart, J. C. (2012). Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication (Eleventh Edition). Boston: McGraw Hill.